Transformation sounds like a magical experience. I hear myself, in the hardest and saddest of sitiations, wanting to quit, wondering am I making it difficult,? what am I doing wrong? It only improves when I start saying what can I learn from this? how can I help someone with what i am learning and feeling right now? The only way to get out of the situation is to grow, to really make sure it doesnt happen again is to grow. I may ask what am I learning ?and the answers may not come right away but I'll get there. I may ask what am I feeling? and hate what Im feeling but i have to recognise it first.