Having friends and social connections is good for your wellbeing. Being a great friend and having friends support you back is good for your wellbeing. But, what is a good friend. Friends are more than an association, more than people you know, more than having something in common. We have lots of different types of friendships and it is useful to understand the substance of those friendships (your drinking or drug friends not being your real friends!) Understand your definition and expectations of friendship and your friends expectations of the friendship. A good friend shows they care by their actions. A good friend is there for you no matter what, doesn't judge you, doesn't put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings, is kind and respectful to you, is someone whose company you enjoy, is loyal, is trustworthy and willing to tell you truth, even when it's hard for you to hear (and says it with compassion for you), laughs with you, sticks around when things get tough, makes you smile, is there to listen, comforts you when you cry. Are you a good friend? do you listen to your friends, understanding a situation from their point of view, are you interested in their lives and what they are going through to stick by them, are you able to ask your friends what they need as support and provide that for them, do you stay in touch, do you share your feelings, do you protect your friends?